Dinner Topics for Monday
Marriage Definition, God, and Importance of Family
Look, folks, it really isn’t complicated. Marriage, like every other word, has a definition. It is the union of a man and a woman, and — very, very importantly, in this instance — in most cases it happens or is supposed to happen under the eyes of God. ~Rush Limbaugh
The social science case for marriage and for families headed by a married man and woman is compelling.19 And so “we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.”20 But our claims for the role of marriage and family rest not on social science but on the truth that they are God’s creation. It is He who in the beginning created Adam and Eve in His image, male and female, and joined them as husband and wife to become “one flesh” and to multiply and replenish the earth.21 Each individual carries the divine image, but it is in the matrimonial union of male and female as one that we attain perhaps the most complete meaning of our having been made in the image of God—male and female. Neither we nor any other mortal can alter this divine order of matrimony. It is not a human invention.Such marriage is indeed “from above, from God” and is as much a part of the plan of happiness as the Fall and the Atonement. ~D. Todd Christofferson
RUSH: Look, folks, it really isn’t complicated. Marriage, like every other word, has a definition. It is the union of a man and a woman, and — very, very importantly, in this instance — in most cases it happens or is supposed to happen under the eyes of God. (gasping) Uh-oh, religious component, uh-oh, religion is the enemy of the left. Uh-oh, anything we can do to blow up religion, we’ll do. Therefore, make marriage nothing more than an agreement. God’s got nothing to do with it. There isn’t anything really serious going on here, just two people that love each other, saying so, why not. Additionally, marriage was never established to discriminate against anybody.
But you wouldn’t believe that if you listen to the advocates who want to change what it means. Nobody ever thought about it discriminating against anybody. It’s just what it was. I mean, there are certain activities that are what they are, and no matter how much you try to change the definition, you can’t change what the activity of the institution, tradition is. It was never established to discriminate against people. It had much loftier goals. Marriage had a much, much loftier purpose than to discriminate. It was not even a factor.
And then there’s this.
When you boil this all down, I don’t care what you do, and I don’t care how you arrange things, every single one of us has a mother and a father.
I don’t care what you do, I don’t care what changes in definitions of words and whatever inroads you make in society, but there’s nothing you are ever gonna be able to do to change that. We all have a mother and a father. And if we start screwing around — well, we already have — with the definition of marriage and all this, then there are gonna be a lot of people who aren’t gonna know who both of their parents are. And that’s true I know of adopted kids. I know there are exceptions to everything.
But it’s undeniable. We all have a mother and father. No matter how else we try to tell ourselves that we’re gonna change, we’re becoming more enlightened, you can’t wipe that out. You can’t erase that fact, and that fact results from biology. There’s nothing you can do to wipe it out until somebody comes up with the artificial womb.
For millennia marriage has been an institution about specific things. It has not been an arrangement of convenience in the here and now to satisfy surface, specious desires. Marriage has been a commitment. You can say it works or doesn’t. You can say that it’s not always perfect. I don’t care how you want to rip it, but marriage is what it is. Marriage is a union of a man and a woman which has, whether you want to admit it, agree to it or not, one purpose: to propagate the race, to create bloodlines and family lines, family being the keyword, for the express purpose of giving people the best opportunity to be raised in a good way so as to be prepared to meet life as an adult.
That’s what marriage is. The definition of the word is a union of a man and a woman.
It is exclusive, it is monogamous. Not everybody obeys, I understand that, but institutions are not rendered useless simply because some people fail them. An institution is what it is. Just because some people do not follow through it doesn’t mean the institution is flawed. If you’re gonna come along because desires of the moment leave people to think that they are excluded from this and this is unfair and so we’re going to redefine what marriage is, that’s the problem people have with it. Marriage is a specific thing and it has specific purposes.
Now, your question, hey, it’s only 1%, 2% of the population. What is the big deal?
It is a recognition that the institution of marriage, defined through the millennia, has a definitive and worthwhile, uplifting, demonstrably proven to be uplifting, purpose. You can go anywhere you want and look at results of the human civilization where such arrangements haven’t been made, and there’s been no question, the stats, the children of a mother-and-dad family, mom-and-dad, female-male relationship, do better in life than single parent kids, all that. It’s all rolled into one.
Your analogy to interracial marriage, I don’t think it works. I don’t think it’s relevant because we’re not changing the definition of marriage in an interracial marriage in any way, shape, manner, or form. The skin color of the participants doesn’t do anything to the institution. It doesn’t change it, it doesn’t dilute it, it doesn’t water it down, it doesn’t make it meaningless. But the marriage of people of the same sex totally wipes out the meaning of the word and once again we are allowing institutions of millennia and tradition to be diluted and perhaps even eliminated in terms of their real true meaning in order to satisfy wants and desires of convenience in the moment.
If you looked at every institution, “Well, hey, you know, only 1% of the population has a million dollars, why not tax ’em at 75%? What’s the big deal? Raise their taxes, 75%.” You do that, and pretty soon everybody’s gonna be paying a 75% tax rate. It doesn’t stop. The fact it affects so few is not the way to look at it. Now we have people in the UK who want to marry their dogs. Now we have people who want to get married to two or three different people, and there are people that care about the institution that consider it valid, valuable, worthwhile, meaningful, relevant, and productive.
They’re worried about it being watered down and diluted to meaninglessness.
And in the process, they’re worried about the whole notion of respect for it crumbling as well. Your attitude happens to be the majority opinion, though. That’s how it is coming to pass. “Hey, if two people love each other, what difference does it make? Who are you to say people who love each other shouldn’t be able to get married?” The old saw.
I could use one of your techniques back at you. Well, gay people are not prohibited from getting married. Anybody, man, woman, if they want to marry each other they can get married. Nobody is being denied the chance to get married. Now, you would guffaw at that, you would pooh-pooh that, but it’s the same analogy as your interracial marriage example. That would be my answer to you. These things, to a lot of people, do matter, because of the future implications contained.